Ramblings…

         This post is going to be difficult to write. It might be difficult for some people to read. This is your warning. If you have been in a toxic relationship, whether it be a parent, a significant other or a friend, this could be triggering.      I had a friend. I called her my best friend. More than that I called her my sister. We grew up together in church, from the toddler room through the youth group and high school graduation. We had our ups and downs. A lot of ups and downs. I never thought about why that was. I figured friends fight. Right? Well, fast forward to 2016. I lost my Gram in February of that year. She lost her mom right after that. During this time I was figuring out that MY mom is a narcissist. I was also figuring out that this friend really only wanted to spend time with me if I was the one who drove 4 hours to wherever she was living at the time, dragging my kids with me. Then she would come to visit her family, who lives about 20 ish minutes away from me and

      What do you think of when you hear Circle of life? For me, the picture in my head is Rafiki holding Simba up for the animals of the pride land to see. The song is eve playing in my head as I type.      Actually what the circle of life is we’re born and we have our parents taking care of us. Most of us have wonderful parents, but some of us don’t. We continue to grow and stretch our boundaries, moving away from our parents and toward adulthood. We get married, have kids of our own and watch them grow. We don’t think about the fact that as we get older, our parents are getting older too. Then our kids grow up, go to college, get married. We realize that our parents are slowing down, needing more help.. Some of us even move our parents in with us. In an in-law suite, or rooms just for them. Some of us can’t do that so they go into assisted living or have help coming into the home. Then we worry about our parents as well as our kids. When is the right time to try to get them to stop